Satisfying Single

Briann Kline, Entertainment Editor

Nobody wants to be alone on Valentine’s Day. Even if you’re content in your singledom, there will always be an underlying pressure to have that special someone. And, when you don’t, the day can feel gloomy at best. This extends to most holidays, such as Thanksgiving and New Year’s.
Distant judgment is something that I, along with many others, have experienced on this day of love. When many people are paired up, you can feel like an outcast or that you’re doing something wrong. These feelings are perpetuated by the standards of a “Hallmark Holiday.”
Love sells, and there is an artificial standard of relationships displayed by the world’s culture. Expectations that are set so high grapple around people’s legs, making them drag the burden of imperfection everywhere they go. Valentine’s Day is commercialized, which makes it difficult to pragmatically understand the reality of flawed but healthy partnerships for those who are single. For those in relationships, there is still a standard, a high expectation and a fear of letting others down.
The idealistic relationship is promoted year-round, whether in the form of a cheesy holiday movie or conventional couples in advertisements. This idea of high expectations can cause rifts in any given partnership. Some of the blame can be pinned on society and consumerism because they tell us that grand gestures such as expensive gifts are necessary to show how much you love someone. Or, less expensively but still harmful, putting an idealized version of you and your partner on display for social media. Feeling an obligation to purchase an expensive gift as opposed to a meaningful and thought-out one can in some cases be toxic.
We can’t control what harmful ideas are being put out there during these times, but we can control how we react. Being gentle with your expectations can brighten the mood exponentially. Even though the culture of certain holidays can be intimidating, sometimes we put the most pressure on ourselves. Taking that burden off of our own shoulders is one of the best things we can do for ourselves. Just because Valentine’s Day is typically covered in red hearts and chocolates doesn’t mean that those are your only options. In the end, you don’t need to have someone to be content, and in turn the struggles of a relationship brings burdens of their own. Valentine’s is a day of love, and instead of appealing to what is expected, you can extend that love to yourself.